Who's in your tribe?

You ever heard the saying, "Simple Life"? Well life isn't so simple. Sometimes you have to draw a circle and put all the things you love inside that circle. The people, things, places, things, etc that make your life happy, go here, in that circle. You have to protect that circle though. Don't just let new things come in without earning their place first. And sometimes, the things you have had in that circle don't make you happy anymore, so you have to get rid of them, so you can make room for more. You can't make the circle any bigger, because the circle is your life. You only have one. Stake your claim on what you want. The memories, the places, the things and the people. I think I mentioned that earlier. Sometimes you will let things that have hurt you seep into your circle. they take up too much space. They steal your happy. Your happy just walks away and then you wonder why your circle is so empty. You allowed people who didn't earn a spot into your circle, and they filled it with their venom and suffocated the happy out. Remember here, YOU get to decide who and what gets in your circle!! You are the captain here. You pick your tribe. Be picky.

And you know what?? You can re-draw your circle and fill it with good things. Good people.  Good places. Good memories. Sometimes, your tribe needs to be downsized. If something or someone isn't authentic, then banish it out! like, for instance....have you ever met someone who just puts on a show for life? Say maybe they show up to events and make sure they snap the picture, and tell the world, "hey, look at me! I am so awesome , and so involved in this persons life!" but in private, they have no clue what it is like to really know that person. They don't know what their favorite color is, or if they had a bad day. or if they need a friend. They don't know because they are not really in their life.  They just show up for things a few times a year and call themselves a friend, or family. We all have people like that in our lives. Glory seekers. Get them out of your tribe. You know who deserves to be in your tribe??? The people who would drive or fly across country if they new you were in trouble and scared. Even if it costs them their entire bank account to get there. The people that deserve to be in your tribe are the ones that ask you how you are and you say, its a drive off the cliff kind of day, and they are there in two minutes with a bottle of wine, or vodka...hey, tomato, tomatoe.  The people that deserve tribehood are the ones that wont call you names or degrade you if you make a bad choice in life. Pick those people. because I am here to tell you this....the bad tribe members will run the good tribe members right out of your happy little circle!!! And then you have to draw another damn circle and then by this time your hand will be cramped from drawing so many circles that you will start making poor tribe choices again, and then you will just self implode. Don't do that.....just make good tribe choices.

I have recently seen who my true tribe members are. Thick and thin, they have stuck by me through all of my good , bad, and ugly. And the ugly was like the ugliest ugly, ever. But your true tribe members know your core. They see through your bullshit. They know your potential. And because they know all of these things....they don't give up on you, also they know that you are their tribe member also...it goes both ways. You don't give up on them, they may remember a time when they needed you, maybe they lost a loved one...and you devoted your time to them and didn't try to fix the situation, but you were just there. To hand them tissues, and hugs. And to pick out a funeral outfit for you, because you cant think. You are their tribe member, and they need you, too.

This weekend I was blessed with a rare opportunity....I was with MOST of my tribe members all in one place. it fed my soul. it reminded me to feed my tribe members souls as well. It also reminded me that I have lost some tribe members.....and that is ok. The circle was getting crowded with negative. It was needed. Also remember this, you may be a negative in someone else's circle......and there will come a time when they decide to draw a new circle without you in it. So be prepared for that, because sometimes......it really sucks.


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